{"id":16495,"date":"2021-12-04T14:25:37","date_gmt":"2021-12-04T07:25:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.vietlearn.org\/post\/?p=16495"},"modified":"2021-12-04T14:25:38","modified_gmt":"2021-12-04T07:25:38","slug":"dieu-gi-khien-nguoi-ta-yeu-co-6-yeu-to","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.vietlearn.org\/kien-thuc\/dieu-gi-khien-nguoi-ta-yeu-co-6-yeu-to\/","title":{"rendered":"\u0110i\u1ec1u g\u00ec khi\u1ebfn ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta y\u00eau? C\u00f3 6 y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

T\u1eeb kh\u00f3a t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm: T\u00e1n t\u1ec9nh b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 ai – Leil Lowndes<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110\u00e2u l\u00e0 k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u1edd \u0111\u1ee3i qu\u00e1 l\u00e2u t\u1eeb c\u00e1c nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau? V\u00e2ng, c\u00f3 l\u1ebd Freud \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u00fang. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau qu\u1ea3 l\u00e0 b\u00ed \u1ea9n. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta kh\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 n\u1eafm b\u1eaft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u00f3 ho\u1eb7c chuy\u1ec3n n\u00f3 sang d\u1ea1ng vi t\u00ednh h\u00f3a, ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t theo ki\u1ec3u th\u00f4ng tin \u1edf d\u1ea1ng bit v\u00e0 byte. Thay v\u00ec v\u1eady, gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t lo\u1ea1i virus, c\u00e1c h\u1ecdc gi\u1ea3<\/a> \u0111ang \u0111\u00e1nh v\u1eadt v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3 v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, \u0111\u00f4i khi x\u00e1c \u0111\u1ecbnh \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c m\u1ed9t v\u00e0i kh\u00eda c\u1ea1nh. V\u00e0 ch\u00fang \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ea1o n\u00ean nh\u1eefng b\u01b0\u1edbc ti\u1ebfn \u0111\u00e1ng k\u1ec3.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

R\u00fat ra t\u1eeb v\u00f4 s\u1ed1 nh\u1eefng nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u \u0111\u00f3, c\u00f3 6 y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n cho th\u1ea5y nh\u1eefng g\u00ec khi\u1ebfn ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta y\u00eau nhau. V\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh nh\u1eefng c\u00f4 n\u00e0ng\/anh ch\u00e0ng th\u1ee3 s\u0103n t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, b\u1ea1n c\u0169ng ph\u1ea3i gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 th\u1ea7n t\u00ecnh y\u00eau Cupid, tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t cung th\u1ee7 si\u00eau h\u1ea1ng. B\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i h\u01b0\u1edbng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u0169i t\u00ean t\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u00e0o tr\u00fang h\u1ed3ng t\u00e2m c\u1ee7a 6 m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau sau \u0111\u00e2y.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I. NH\u1eeeNG \u1ea4N T\u01af\u1ee2NG \u0110\u1ea6U TI\u00caN<\/p>\n\n\n\n

B\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i th\u1ee9 hai \u0111\u1ec3 y\u00eau t\u1eeb c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nh\u1eefng kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean b\u1ea1n g\u1eb7p \u0111\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u1ee3ng ti\u1ec1m n\u0103ng \u2013 v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec anh\/c\u00f4 \u1ea5y b\u1eaft g\u1eb7p \u1edf b\u1ea1n \u2013 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 mang t\u00ednh quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh. V\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 \u1edf \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 \u201cquy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh \u0111i ti\u1ebfp\/kh\u00f4ng \u0111i ti\u1ebfp\u201d. C\u00e1c nh\u00e0 khoa h\u1ecdc b\u1ea3o ta r\u1eb1ng, th\u01b0\u1eddng th\u00ec nh\u1eefng h\u1ea1t gi\u1ed1ng t\u00ecnh y\u00eau s\u1ebd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gieo ngay trong v\u00e0i ph\u00fat \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Khi hai con m\u00e8o l\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ea7u g\u1eb7p nhau, ch\u00fang d\u1eebng l\u1ea1i, ng\u1eafm ngh\u00eda nhau. N\u1ebfu m\u1ed9t con x\u00ec x\u00ec kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu, con kia s\u1ebd d\u1ef1ng l\u00f4ng l\u00ean v\u00e0 x\u00ec x\u00ec \u0111\u00e1p l\u1ea1i. Nh\u01b0ng n\u1ebfu con th\u1ee9 nh\u1ea5t nh\u1eb9 nh\u00e0ng ti\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ebfn v\u1edbi c\u00e1i m\u0169i l\u1ea1nh c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, con m\u00e8o kia c\u0169ng s\u1ebd \u0111\u00e1p l\u1ea1i t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ef1. V\u00e0 ch\u00fang s\u1ebd r\u1ea5t vui v\u1ebb b\u00ean nhau, li\u1ebfm l\u00f4ng cho nhau.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

M\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng v\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u0169ng t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u nhau h\u1ec7t nh\u01b0 hai con th\u00fa nh\u1ecf \u0111ang \u0111\u00e1nh h\u01a1i nhau v\u1eady. Tuy ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u0111u\u00f4i \u0111\u1ec3 v\u1eaby, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 l\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ec3 d\u1ef1ng l\u00ean, nh\u01b0ng ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 \u0111\u00f4i m\u1eaft c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 thu h\u1eb9p hay m\u1edf to. V\u00e0 b\u00e0n tay th\u00ec l\u00fang t\u00fang ho\u1eb7c m\u1ec1m \u0111i m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch v\u00f4 th\u1ee9c trong t\u01b0 th\u1ebf \u201ct\u00f4i \u0111\u1ed3ng t\u00ecnh\u201d. Ch\u00fang t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 quan s\u00e1t nhi\u1ec1u ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng \u201ckh\u00f4ng mong mu\u1ed1n\u201d kh\u00e1c th\u01b0\u1eddng x\u1ea3y ra trong kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc g\u1eb7p g\u1ee1 \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean. V\u00e0 tin vui l\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ec3 ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh vi kh\u00f4ng mong mu\u1ed1n n\u00e0y.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc hai b\u1ea1n h\u01b0\u1edbng m\u1eaft v\u00e0o nhau, \u0111\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u1ee3ng ti\u1ec1m n\u0103ng c\u0169ng s\u1ebd v\u00f4 th\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ecdc \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng \u1ea9n \u00fd trong ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef c\u01a1 th\u1ec3 b\u1ea1n. V\u00e0, trong nh\u1eefng th\u1eddi kh\u1eafc \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean quan tr\u1ecdng n\u00e0y, anh\/c\u00f4 \u1ea5y c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 v\u00f4 th\u1ee9c ngh\u0129 t\u1edbi m\u1ed9t c\u1eed ch\u1ec9 l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n hay t\u1eeb b\u1ecf ngay \u00fd \u0111\u1ecbnh y\u00eau \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng. T\u00e2m tr\u00ed h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u1ed1ng h\u1ec7t nh\u01b0 chi\u1ebfc m\u00e1y t\u00ednh, v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u1ee3ng ti\u1ec1m n\u0103ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c \u0111\u01b0a ra nh\u1eefng quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh r\u1ea5t nhanh kh\u00e1c n\u1eefa v\u1ec1 b\u1ea1n trong cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean, trong l\u1ea7n h\u1eb9n h\u00f2 \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u1ede ph\u1ea7n 1, ch\u00fang t\u00f4i s\u1ebd ch\u1ec9 ra nh\u1eefng th\u1ee7 thu\u1eadt h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u1ee3ng ti\u1ec1m n\u0103ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n, \u0111\u1ec3 t\u1eeb \u0111\u00f3 d\u1eabn t\u1edbi cu\u1ed9c h\u1eb9n \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean. T\u00f4i s\u1ebd chia s\u1ebb nh\u1eefng ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p \u0111\u1ea7y t\u00ednh khoa h\u1ecdc trong vi\u1ec7c duy tr\u00ec m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n th\u00fa v\u1ecb, khi\u1ebfn cho cu\u1ed9c h\u1eb9n \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean tr\u1edf n\u00ean r\u1ea5t \u1ea5n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng v\u1edbi con m\u1ed3i c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

II. T\u00cdNH C\u00c1CH T\u01af\u01a0NG \u0110\u1ed2NG, NHU C\u1ea6U B\u1ed4 SUNG T\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n y\u00eau ng\u01b0\u1eddi gi\u1ed1ng h\u1ec7t m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n y\u00eau ng\u01b0\u1eddi gi\u1ed1ng h\u1ec7t m\u00ecnh<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(V\u00e2ng, g\u1ea7n nh\u01b0 gi\u1ed1ng h\u1ec7t)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua \u201cb\u00e0i thi \u1ea5n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean\u201d, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd b\u01b0\u1edbc v\u00e0o giai \u0111o\u1ea1n th\u1ee9 hai. \u1ede \u0111\u00e2y, ph\u1ea7n \u00fd th\u1ee9c trong \u0111\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd v\u00e0o cu\u1ed9c, anh\/c\u00f4 \u1ea5y s\u1ebd b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 v\u1ec1 b\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u1ee3ng ti\u1ec1m n\u0103ng. T\u00e2m tr\u00ed v\u00f4 th\u1ee9c c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd s\u1ebd m\u00e1ch b\u1ea3o r\u1eb1ng: \u201cT\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 t\u00f4i. V\u00e2ng, g\u1ea7n nh\u01b0 gi\u1ed1ng t\u00f4i\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u1ebfu c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 t\u01b0\u01a1ng th\u00edch trong \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng, ho\u1eb7c th\u1eadm ch\u00ed trong m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c h\u1eb9n, m\u1ed9t v\u00e0i \u0111i\u1ec3m t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u1ed3ng l\u00e0 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft. Tr\u00e1i tim ch\u00fang ta l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng nh\u1ea1c c\u1ee5 h\u00f2a \u00e2m v\u1edbi nhau, ch\u00fang lu\u00f4n t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u1ed3ng v\u1edbi ta, nh\u1eefng ni\u1ec1m tin t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ef1, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi lu\u00f4n nh\u00ecn nh\u1eadn th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi theo nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch \u00edt nhi\u1ec1u gi\u1ed1ng v\u1edbi ta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u1ef1 t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u1ed3ng khi\u1ebfn ta c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y d\u1ec5 ch\u1ecbu v\u00ec n\u00f3 b\u1ea3o \u0111\u1ea3m cho nh\u1eefng l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn m\u00e0 ta \u0111\u00e3 d\u00e0nh c\u1ea3 ph\u1ea7n \u0111\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec3 theo \u0111u\u1ed5i.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ta c\u0169ng s\u1ebd t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau th\u00edch c\u00e1c ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng chung \u0111\u1ec3 ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f9ng chia s\u1ebb ni\u1ec1m vui. S\u1ef1 t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u1ed3ng th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 t\u1ea1o n\u00ean m\u1ed9t n\u1ec1n t\u1ea3ng t\u1ed1t cho m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p c\u1ea5t c\u00e1nh.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nh\u01b0ng ch\u00fang ta c\u0169ng l\u1ea1i th\u1ea5y nh\u00e0m ch\u00e1n n\u1ebfu c\u00f3 qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u s\u1ef1 t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u1ed3ng. B\u00ean c\u1ea1nh \u0111\u00f3, ta c\u0169ng c\u1ea7n ai \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u00f9 \u0111\u1eafp nh\u1eefng thi\u1ebfu h\u1ee5t c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. N\u1ebfu ta kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ea7u \u00f3c v\u1ec1 to\u00e1n h\u1ecdc, ai s\u1ebd l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00e2n b\u1eb1ng gi\u00fap ta vi\u1ec7c t\u00ednh to\u00e1n. N\u1ebfu ta l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi lu\u1ed9m thu\u1ed9m, ai s\u1ebd l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u1eb7t nh\u1ea1nh nh\u1eefng c\u00e1i t\u1ea5t v\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u00e3i kh\u1eafp n\u01a1i \u0111\u00e2y?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

V\u00ec l\u1ebd \u1ea5y, ch\u00fang ta c\u0169ng t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm nh\u1eefng t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch b\u1ed5 sung cho m\u00ecnh \u1edf nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u1ee3ng m\u00e0 ta mong mu\u1ed1n c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 g\u1eafn k\u1ebft l\u00e2u d\u00e0i. Nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch b\u1ed5 sung n\u00e0o. \u0110\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec3m ta th\u1ea5y th\u00fa v\u1ecb v\u00e0 n\u00f3 l\u00e0m t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p h\u01a1n cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a ta. V\u00ec v\u1eady, ta s\u1ebd t\u00ecm nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1eeba gi\u1ed1ng m\u00ecnh l\u1ea1i v\u1eeba c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1ed5 sung cho m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trong ph\u1ea7n 2, ch\u00fang t\u00f4i s\u1ebd kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 nh\u1eefng ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p \u201cgieo tr\u1ed3ng\u201d nh\u1eefng h\u1ea1t gi\u1ed1ng t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u1ed3ng v\u00f4 th\u1ee9c trong tr\u00e1i tim \u0111\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u1ee3ng ti\u1ec1m n\u0103ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. V\u00e0 c\u00f9ng v\u1edbi \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch th\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ec3 anh\/c\u00f4 \u1ea5y hi\u1ec3u r\u1eb1ng, m\u1eb7c d\u00f9 hai b\u1ea1n v\u1ec1 c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n l\u00e0 gi\u1ed1ng nhau, nh\u01b0ng b\u1ea1n v\u1eabn r\u1ea5t kh\u00e1c \u1edf nhi\u1ec1u ph\u01b0\u01a1ng di\u1ec7n th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf, vui v\u1ebb v\u00e0 th\u00fa v\u1ecb h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

III. GI\u00c1 TR\u1eca<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb nguy\u00ean t\u1eafc \u201cT\u00f4i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ee3i g\u00ec – T\u0110LG?\u201d trong t\u00ecnh y\u00eau<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cN\u00e0y, ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ang y\u00eau \u01a1i, m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 gi\u00e1 c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ea5y. Ai c\u0169ng \u0111eo tr\u00ean m\u00ecnh c\u00e1i m\u00e1c ghi gi\u00e1 c\u1ea3 \u0111\u1ea5y\u201d. C\u00f4 \u1ea5y xinh nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o? Anh \u1ea5y c\u00f3 v\u1ecb tr\u00ed x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i ra sao? C\u00f4 \u1ea5y c\u00f3 ngu\u1ed3n g\u1ed1c cao qu\u00fd th\u1ebf n\u00e0o? Anh \u1ea5y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ki\u1ebfm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c bao nhi\u00eau ti\u1ec1n? H\u1ecd c\u00f3 gi\u00e0u c\u00f3, th\u00f4ng minh, t\u1ed1t b\u1ee5ng kh\u00f4ng v\u00e0 h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m g\u00ec cho t\u00f4i?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y nghe c\u00f3 v\u1ebb x\u1ea5u xa ph\u1ea3i kh\u00f4ng? C\u00e1c nh\u00e0 nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u b\u1ea3o ch\u00fang ta r\u1eb1ng, t\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 kh\u00f4ng m\u00f9 qu\u00e1ng. V\u00e0 m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u2013 ngay c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1ed1t b\u1ee5ng nh\u1ea5t \u2013 v\u1eabn c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t t\u00ednh to\u00e1n khi ch\u1ecdn l\u1ef1a \u0111\u1ed1i t\u00e1c l\u00e2u d\u00e0i. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng kh\u00e1c g\u00ec v\u1edbi th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi kinh doanh \u2013 n\u01a1i m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1eabn th\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ecfi T\u00f4i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ee3i g\u00ec?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u00f4i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 nghe th\u1ea5y m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng: \u201cNh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng, t\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e0 thu\u1ea7n khi\u1ebft v\u00e0 \u0111am m\u00ea. N\u00f3 li\u00ean quan t\u1edbi s\u1ef1 ch\u0103m s\u00f3c, l\u00f2ng v\u1ecb tha, s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed3ng c\u1ea3m, t\u00ednh \u00edch k\u1ef7. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 v\u1eady th\u00f4i\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00c0 v\u00e2ng, \u0111\u00f3 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 l\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau khi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1ed1t th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 \u0111ang y\u00eau. C\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 g\u1eb7p nh\u1eefng c\u1eb7p v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng h\u1ebft l\u00f2ng v\u00ec nhau, hy sinh m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 cho nhau. V\u00e0 ki\u1ec3u t\u00ecnh y\u00eau qu\u00ean m\u00ecnh n\u00e0y t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec1u m\u01a1 m\u1ed9ng v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i c\u1ee7a n\u00f3. Nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u00e1i \u0111\u1ebfn sau. R\u1ea5t l\u00e2u sau n\u00e0y. V\u00e0 n\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u1ebfn sau khi b\u1ea1n th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 \u0111\u00e3 khi\u1ebfn ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y ch\u1ebft m\u00ea ch\u1ebft m\u1ec7t v\u00ec b\u1ea1n r\u1ed3i.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i v\u1edbi thu\u1edf ban \u0111\u1ea7u trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n: N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n l\u00e0m ai \u0111\u00f3 y\u00eau m\u00ecnh, theo c\u00e1c nh\u00e0 nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u, b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i thuy\u1ebft ph\u1ee5c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c r\u1eb1ng, h\u1ecd s\u1ebd c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t m\u00f3n h\u1eddi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ch\u00fang ta ch\u01b0a quan t\u00e2m t\u1edbi \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3, nh\u01b0ng khoa h\u1ecdc \u0111\u00e3 n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng, nh\u1eefng nguy\u00ean l\u00fd th\u1ecb tr\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u00edch th\u1ef1c \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u00e1p d\u1ee5ng trong quan h\u1ec7 y\u00eau \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ang y\u00eau t\u00ednh to\u00e1n m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch v\u00f4 th\u1ee9c v\u1ec1 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb t\u01b0\u01a1ng x\u1ee9ng c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, t\u1ec9 l\u1ec7 \u201cchi ph\u00ed \u2013 l\u1ee3i \u00edch\u201d c\u1ee7a m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7, \u201cnh\u1eefng gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb ti\u1ec1m \u1ea9n\u201d, kho\u1ea3n \u201cchi ph\u00ed b\u1ea3o tr\u00ec\u201d v\u00e0 \u201c\u01b0\u1edbc t\u00ednh kh\u1ea5u hao\u201d. Ti\u1ebfp \u0111\u00f3, h\u1ecd s\u1ebd t\u1ef1 h\u1ecfi m\u00ecnh: \u201c\u0110\u00e2y c\u00f3 ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 \u201c\u0111\u1ec1 xu\u1ea5t t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t\u201d m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c hay kh\u00f4ng? Ai c\u0169ng c\u00f3 c\u00e1ch t\u00ednh to\u00e1n ri\u00eang trong tim h\u1ecd. V\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 cho ai \u0111\u00f3 y\u00eau m\u00ecnh, b\u1ea1n c\u1ea7n khi\u1ebfn h\u1ecd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y nh\u01b0 h\u1ecd s\u1ebd c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t h\u1ee3p \u0111\u1ed3ng b\u00e9o b\u1edf.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nh\u01b0ng li\u1ec7u c\u00f3 ph\u1ea3i b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i n\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c sinh ra trong m\u1ed9t gia \u0111\u00ecnh danh gia v\u1ecdng t\u1ed9c? Ho\u1eb7c n\u1ebfu t\u00ean c\u1ee7a \u00f4ng b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 Vanderbilt hay Kenedy1<\/strong>? Hay b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u00f2ng tr\u1eafc \u1ea9n nh\u01b0 b\u00e1c s\u1ef9 Schweitzer?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kh\u00f4ng h\u1ec1. \u1ede ph\u1ea7n 3, ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 nh\u1eefng k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng<\/a> ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef tuy\u1ec7t v\u1eddi gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n thay th\u1ebf \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c sung s\u01b0\u1edbng ngay t\u1eeb l\u00fac sinh ra. Theo c\u00e1ch \u0111\u00f3, ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u201ck\u00e9n c\u00e1 ch\u1ecdn canh\u201d b\u1eadc nh\u1ea5t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

IV. B\u1ea2N NG\u00c3<\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u00f4i y\u00eau anh\/em nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o? H\u00e3y \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00f4i ch\u1ee9ng t\u1ecf \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110i\u1ec3m c\u1ed1t l\u00f5i trong s\u1ed1 nh\u1eefng tranh c\u00e3i l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean l\u00e0 \u201cc\u00e1i t\u00f4i\u201d c\u1ee7a m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi. C\u00f3 l\u1ebd, th\u1ea7n t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111\u00e3 qu\u00ean \u0111\u00e1nh d\u1ea5u khi \u00f4ng h\u01b0\u1edbng m\u0169i t\u00ean b\u00e9 nh\u1ecf c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u00e0o tr\u00e1i tim c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y. Khoa h\u1ecdc \u0111\u00e3 ch\u1ec9 cho ch\u00fang ta th\u1ea5y \u0111\u00e2u l\u00e0 n\u01a1i th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 \u0111\u1ed9 n\u00f3ng v\u00e0 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng b\u1eaft l\u1eeda c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta \u2013 ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 c\u00e1i t\u00f4i c\u1ee7a m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta th\u01b0\u1eddng ph\u1ea3i l\u00f2ng nh\u1eefng ai m\u00e0 trong m\u1eaft ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y, h\u1ecd nh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y h\u00ecnh \u1ea3nh ph\u1ea3n chi\u1ebfu l\u00fd l\u01b0\u1edfng nh\u1ea5t v\u1ec1 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u1ee3ng trong t\u1ea7m ng\u1eafm s\u1ebd sung s\u01b0\u1edbng khi c\u00e1i t\u00f4i c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd khi\u1ebfn c\u1ea3 th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi ph\u1ea3i xoay quanh, v\u00ec c\u00e1i t\u00f4i c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u1ee3ng ti\u1ec1m n\u0103ng l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau d\u1ec5 t\u1ea5n c\u00f4ng. C\u00f3 v\u00f4 s\u1ed1 c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c nhau \u0111\u1ec3 khi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh xinh \u0111\u1eb9p, kh\u1ecfe m\u1ea1nh, \u0111\u1eb9p trai, quy\u1ebfn r\u0169, n\u0103ng \u0111\u1ed9ng\u2026 ho\u1eb7c b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec m\u00e0 anh\/c\u00f4 \u1ea5y mu\u1ed1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y. C\u00f3 h\u00e0ng \u0111\u1ed1ng nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi khen b\u1ed1c gi\u1eddi, nh\u1eefng s\u1ef1 ch\u0103m s\u00f3c tinh t\u1ebf v\u00e0 v\u00f4 t\u1eadn c\u00e1c ph\u01b0\u01a1ng th\u1ee9c kh\u00e9o l\u00e9o \u0111\u1ec3 khi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t. T\u00f4i chia s\u1ebb nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch th\u1ee9c tinh t\u1ebf \u0111\u1ec3 thuy\u1ebft ph\u1ee5c \u0111\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n v\u1ec1 \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 h\u1ecd v\u1eabn lu\u00f4n nghi ng\u1edd: \u201cT\u00f4i kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t. T\u00f4i tuy\u1ec7t v\u1eddi\u201d. (V\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 c\u1ea3m \u01a1n b\u1ea1n v\u00ec \u0111\u00e3 nh\u1eadn ra \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt th\u00fa v\u1ecb n\u00e0y, t\u00f4i s\u1ebd y\u00eau b\u1ea1n).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ai c\u0169ng khao kh\u00e1t s\u1ef1 b\u00ecnh y\u00ean v\u00e0 x\u00e1c t\u00edn. Ch\u00fang ta t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm s\u1ef1 an to\u00e0n trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 tr\u1ecdng y\u1ebfu c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh gi\u1eefa m\u1ed9t th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi to\u00e0n b\u1ea1o l\u1ef1c l\u00e0 b\u1ea1o l\u1ef1c. \u1ede ph\u1ea7n 4, T\u00e1n t\u1ec9nh b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 ai s\u1ebd kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch th\u1ee9c khi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u1ee3ng ti\u1ec1m n\u0103ng c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y n\u00f3 \u1edf b\u1ea1n \u2013 v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh b\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ed7 an to\u00e0n c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd gi\u1eefa gi\u00f4ng b\u00e3o cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

V. KH\u00c1C BI\u1ec6T GI\u1edaI T\u00cdNH<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Li\u1ec7u c\u00f3 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng sau V\u01b0\u1eddn \u0110\u1ecba \u0110\u00e0ng?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

M\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u m\u1ec9m c\u01b0\u1eddi \u00fd nh\u1ecb khi Rex Harrion, n\u0103m 1956 c\u1eb1n nh\u1eb1n tr\u00ean s\u00e2n kh\u1ea5u Broadway: \u201c\u1ed2, t\u1ea1i sao m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 gi\u1ed1ng m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng h\u01a1n nh\u1ec9?\u201d \u00d4ng hi\u1ec3u b\u1ed9 phim My Fair Lady c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t con v\u1eadt d\u1ecb bi\u1ec7t. Nh\u01b0ng trong k\u1ef7 nguy\u00ean sau \u0111\u00f3, c\u00e1c nh\u00e0 n\u1eef quy\u1ec1n \u0111\u00e3 n\u00e9m s\u1ef1 nghi ng\u1edd nghi\u00eam t\u00fac v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng x\u00e1c t\u00edn c\u1ee7a \u00f4ng.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Gi\u1edd \u0111\u00e2y, sau r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u th\u1eadp k\u1ef7 c\u00e2n nh\u1eafc, gi\u1ea3 \u0111\u1ecbnh v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t v\u1ec1 m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 c\u01a1 quan sinh d\u1ee5c kh\u00f4ng, b\u00ed m\u1eadt \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u00e9 l\u1ed9. V\u00e0 c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi l\u00e0 \u2013 xin vui l\u00f2ng cho m\u1ed9t tr\u00e0ng ph\u00e1o tay \u2013 V\u00e2ng! \u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 suy ngh\u0129 v\u00e0 giao ti\u1ebfp v\u1edbi nhau theo nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch r\u1ea5t kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Gi\u1ea3i ph\u1eabu th\u1ea7n kinh c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ec9 ra nh\u1eefng kh\u1ed1i t\u1ebf b\u00e0o th\u1ea7n kinh trong n\u00e3o b\u1ed9 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef \u0111\u00e3 khi\u1ebfn cho nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng nh\u01b0 Henry Higgins trong phim My Fair Lady \u0111\u00e3 g\u1ecdi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef l\u00e0 \u201cnh\u1eefng k\u1ebb g\u00e2y b\u1ef1c t\u1ee9c, t\u00ednh to\u00e1n, khu\u1ea5y \u0111\u1ea3o, \u0111i\u00ean r\u1ed3 v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e1ng c\u0103m gi\u1eadn\u201d. C\u00e1c nh\u00e0 khoa h\u1ecdc c\u0169ng \u0111\u00e3 ch\u0129a m\u0169i kim v\u00e0o c\u00e1c ph\u00e2n t\u1eed trong n\u00e3o b\u1ed9 c\u1ee7a \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng, \u0111i\u1ec1u khi\u1ebfn cho ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef bu\u1ed9c t\u1ed9i \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng \u201ch\u00f2n \u0111\u1ea5t v\u00f4 c\u1ea3m\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

B\u1ea5t ch\u1ea5p h\u00e0ng \u0111\u1ed1ng d\u1eef li\u1ec7u sau \u0111\u00f3 n\u00f3i t\u1edbi nh\u1eefng kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t v\u1ec1 di truy\u1ec1n, n\u00e3o v\u00e0 t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c gi\u1eefa \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0, c\u00e1c th\u1ee3 s\u0103n \u1edf c\u1ea3 hai gi\u1edbi \u0111\u1ec1u ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c gi\u1ea3 \u0111\u1ecbnh ch\u00fang ta ngh\u0129 gi\u1ed1ng nhau. V\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta ki\u00ean tr\u00ec trong vi\u1ec7c t\u00e1n t\u1ec9nh nhau theo c\u00e1ch ch\u00fang ta mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ve v\u00e3n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00f3 l\u1ebd nh\u1eefng ph\u00e1t hi\u1ec7n khoa h\u1ecdc g\u1ea7n \u0111\u00e2y s\u1ebd gi\u00fap \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u s\u00e2u th\u00eam v\u1ec1 phong c\u00e1ch c\u1ee7a nhau. Ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef s\u1ebd v\u1eabn ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c l\u00e0 \u201cnh\u1eefng k\u1ebb g\u00e2y b\u1ef1c t\u1ee9c\u201d v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng v\u1eabn s\u1ebd b\u1ecb coi l\u00e0 \u201cv\u00f4 c\u1ea3m\u201d. V\u00e0 c\u1ea3 hai gi\u1edbi s\u1ebd v\u1eabn ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi nhau theo nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch s\u1ebd l\u00e0m hai b\u00ean m\u1ea5t h\u1ee9ng, nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 trong c\u00e1c cu\u1ed9c h\u1eb9n \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

V\u00ec th\u1ebf h\u1ecd s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m \u0111\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi \u201cti\u00eau di\u1ec7t\u201d. C\u00e1c tay th\u1ee3 s\u0103n \u1edf nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c ch\u01a1i l\u1edbn v\u00e0 nghi\u00eam t\u00fac hi\u1ec3u r\u1ea5t r\u00f5 c\u00e1 t\u00ednh v\u00e0 th\u00f3i quen c\u1ee7a con h\u01b0\u01a1u, nai, tu\u1ea7n l\u1ed9c, b\u00f2 r\u1eebng v\u00e0 l\u1ee3n hoang. C\u0169ng nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf, nh\u1eefng th\u1ee3 s\u0103n t\u00ecnh y\u00eau nghi\u00eam t\u00fac ph\u1ea3i r\u1ea5t th\u00e0nh th\u1ea1o v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t v\u1ec1 gi\u1edbi t\u00ednh n\u1ebfu h\u1ecd c\u00f3 \u00fd \u0111\u1ecbnh \u0111i \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 \u201ck\u1ebft th\u00fac\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ph\u1ea7n 5 s\u1ebd t\u00f3m t\u1eaft cho b\u1ea1n vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u00e1nh nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh vi d\u1ec5 g\u00e2y m\u1ea5t h\u1ee9ng ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn nh\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a c\u1ea3 nam gi\u1edbi v\u00e0 n\u1eef gi\u1edbi trong cu\u1ed9c h\u1eb9n \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean, khi\u1ebfn cho ngay c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u1ee3ng th\u1eadn tr\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i m\u00e0 gi\u1ea3m b\u1edbt s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ec1 ph\u00f2ng. Nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u1ee3ng r\u1ee5t r\u00e8 th\u01b0\u1eddng tr\u1ed1n bi\u1ec7t khi ch\u00e0ng\/n\u00e0ng ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn qu\u00e1 g\u1ea7n, song h\u1ecd c\u0169ng l\u1ea1i v\u00f4 c\u00f9ng h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac khi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u1edf trong \u201ct\u1ea7m ng\u1eafm\u201d c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

VI. T\u00ccNH D\u1ee4C<\/p>\n\n\n\n

L\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 b\u1eadt \u201cc\u00f4ng t\u1eafc\u201d t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

R\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u cu\u1ed1n s\u00e1ch vi\u1ebft vi\u1ec7c kh\u01a1i d\u1eady c\u1ea3m h\u1ee9ng v\u1ec1 chuy\u1ec7n \u1ea5y v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n t\u00ecnh gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 vi\u1ec7c b\u1eadt n\u00fat c\u00f4ng t\u1eafc chi\u1ebfc \u0111\u00e8n ng\u1ee7 c\u1ea1nh gi\u01b0\u1eddng n\u1eb1m b\u1ea1n v\u1eady. \u201cH\u00e3y nh\u1ea5n v\u00e0o \u0111\u00e2y \u0111\u1ec3 t\u0103ng c\u01b0\u1eddng ham mu\u1ed1n. H\u00e3y ch\u1ea1m v\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 th\u00eam n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

V\u00e2ng, t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c \u0111\u00fang l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec7n th\u1eadt. Nh\u01b0ng nh\u1eefng c\u00e1i c\u00f4ng t\u1eafc tr\u00ean c\u01a1 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd ch\u1ec9 t\u0103ng t\u1ed1c hay gi\u1ea3m t\u1ed1c c\u00e1c ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng th\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5t. S\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh tinh th\u1ea7n m\u1edbi l\u00e0 c\u00e1i \u0111i\u1ec1u khi\u1ec3n c\u1ed7 m\u00e1y kh\u1ed5ng l\u1ed3 v\u00e0 t\u1ea1o ra ngu\u1ed3n nhi\u1ec7t trong c\u01a1 th\u1ec3 b\u1ea1n. C\u01a1 quan kh\u01a1i d\u1eady t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd nh\u1ea5t trong c\u01a1 th\u1ec3 ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 b\u1ed9 n\u00e3o.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

V\u1ec1 c\u00e1c chi ti\u1ebft c\u1ee7a chuy\u1ec7n \u201ct\u00ecnh tang\u201d n\u00e0y, vi\u1ec7c th\u00e0nh th\u1ee5c nh\u1eefng k\u1ef9 thu\u1eadt kh\u01a1i d\u1eady c\u1ea3m x\u00fac hay r\u00ean r\u1ec9 \u0111\u1eafm \u0111u\u1ed1i (v\u00e0 c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi cho nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi x\u1eeda x\u01b0a nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0y l\u00e0 \u201cnu\u1ed1t hay kh\u00f4ng nu\u1ed1t\u201d), kh\u00f4ng h\u1ec1 thi\u1ebfu s\u00e1ch tham kh\u1ea3o. H\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 mi\u00eau t\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng th\u00f4ng tin chi ti\u1ebft v\u1edbi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef v\u1ec1 c\u00e1ch th\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ec3 k\u00edch ho\u1ea1t nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec3m kho\u00e1i c\u1ea3m ngay b\u00ean d\u01b0\u1edbi c\u1ee7a ch\u00e0ng, l\u00e0m ch\u00e0ng c\u1ef1c kho\u00e1i. V\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ki\u1ec3m nghi\u1ec7m nh\u1eefng b\u1ea3n \u0111\u1ed3 \u0111\u1ec3 b\u00e0n tay c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 d\u1ea1o ch\u01a1i tr\u00ean \u0111\u00f3 v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng b\u1ecf l\u1ee1 nh\u1eefng l\u1ed1i r\u1ebd U d\u1eabn t\u1edbi \u0111i\u1ec3m G c\u1ee7a n\u00e0ng.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e1c qu\u00fd \u00f4ng th\u00e2n m\u1ebfn, v\u1edbi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef, vi\u1ec7c b\u1ea1n \u201cl\u00e0m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c chuy\u1ec7n \u1ea5y\u201d bao nhi\u00eau l\u1ea7n m\u1ed9t tu\u1ea7n (th\u1eadm ch\u00ed m\u1ed9t \u0111\u00eam) kh\u00f4ng quan tr\u1ecdng b\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac v\u00e0 \u0111am m\u00ea b\u1ea1n t\u1ea1o ra trong m\u1ecdi kh\u00eda c\u1ea1nh c\u1ee7a quan h\u1ec7 t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m. V\u00e0 nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c b\u1ea1n d\u00e0nh cho c\u00f4 \u1ea5y m\u1ed7i khi ng\u1eafm nh\u00ecn n\u00e0ng.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00f2n h\u1ee1i c\u00e1c qu\u00fd b\u00e0, k\u00edch c\u1ee1 c\u1ee7a \u00e1o ng\u1ef1c c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng cong c\u1ee7a eo h\u00f4ng kh\u00f4ng quan tr\u1ecdng b\u1eb1ng k\u00edch c\u1ee1 v\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng u\u1ed1n l\u01b0\u1ee3n c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng c\u1eed ch\u1ec9 t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c v\u00e0 c\u00e1ch b\u1ea1n \u1ee9ng x\u1eed v\u1edbi chuy\u1ec7n t\u00ecnh \u00e1i ri\u00eang c\u00f9ng ch\u00e0ng.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 hai chuy\u1ec7n t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c n\u00e0o ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n gi\u1ed1ng nhau, c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 hai b\u00f4ng hoa tuy\u1ebft n\u00e0o h\u1ec7t nh\u01b0 nhau. T\u00f4i s\u1ebd g\u1eedi t\u1edbi b\u1ea1n nh\u1eefng k\u1ef9 thu\u1eadt kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 ham mu\u1ed1n t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c \u0111\u1ed9c \u0111\u00e1o c\u1ee7a con m\u1ed3i, sau \u0111\u00f3 b\u1ea1n h\u00e3y l\u00e0m t\u00ecnh v\u1edbi anh\/ c\u00f4 \u1ea5y theo c\u00e1ch h\u1ecd mu\u1ed1n. \u1ede ph\u1ea7n 6, ch\u00fang t\u00f4i s\u1ebd kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 lo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ec3 khi\u1ebfn con m\u1ed3i y\u00eau b\u1ea1n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

V\u00e0 b\u00e2y gi\u1edd, ch\u00fang ta h\u00e3y b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u b\u01b0\u1edbc v\u00e0o h\u00e0nh tr\u00ecnh g\u1ed3m 6 ph\u1ea7n, kh\u1edfi \u0111\u1ea7u v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u s\u1ebd x\u1ea3y ra v\u1ec1 m\u1eb7t th\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5t khi ch\u00fang ta ph\u1ea3i l\u00f2ng ai \u0111\u00f3.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

T\u1eeb kh\u00f3a t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm: T\u00e1n t\u1ec9nh b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 ai – Leil Lowndes \u0110\u00e2u l\u00e0 k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u1edd \u0111\u1ee3i qu\u00e1 l\u00e2u t\u1eeb c\u00e1c nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau? V\u00e2ng, c\u00f3 l\u1ebd Freud \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u00fang. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau qu\u1ea3 l\u00e0 b\u00ed \u1ea9n. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta kh\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 n\u1eafm b\u1eaft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u00f3 ho\u1eb7c chuy\u1ec3n n\u00f3 sang d\u1ea1ng vi […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":"","_disable_autopaging":false},"categories":[22],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-16495","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-tam-ly"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.vietlearn.org\/kien-thuc\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16495","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.vietlearn.org\/kien-thuc\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.vietlearn.org\/kien-thuc\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.vietlearn.org\/kien-thuc\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.vietlearn.org\/kien-thuc\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=16495"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.vietlearn.org\/kien-thuc\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16495\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":16496,"href":"https:\/\/www.vietlearn.org\/kien-thuc\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16495\/revisions\/16496"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.vietlearn.org\/kien-thuc\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=16495"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.vietlearn.org\/kien-thuc\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=16495"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.vietlearn.org\/kien-thuc\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=16495"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}